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When beginning to deal with an angry person,the first step is always to listen. This is done with eye contact, but very few words, until the initial wave of angry energy pauses for the first time. During that interval, listen for the factual content of what that person thinks is their concern, while letting the emotional content wash by without “hooking” you. Don’t put much effort into sharing information at this point. The person who is very angry is not in a state where they can absorb much of anything you have to say, even if they would benefit from hearing it. They may often misinterpret your quick verbal response or problem-solving as a way of getting rid of them and their needs.

A great metaphor to hold in mind as you listen during this first
step is that of a great ocean wave crashing over you as you stand in the surf, or perhaps a volcano erupting with hot rock and ash. There is no point in trying to shout over the noise until the initial outburst is complete, or become upset that this event is
all about you, even if the angry person would have you believe that at the time.

When the pause in their verbal torrent finally comes, briefly mirror the factual content with the goal of letting the other person know that you’ve heard the core of their complaint accurately. This can sound something like: “So if I heard you correctly, you’re saying …”or “What I hear you saying is this …”, but you should always use your own judgment in choosing language that sounds natural to each situation. Even better, the mirroring statement can be preceded by first asking permission to confirm
you heard, and/or a finishing question asking if your understanding is accurate. This might sound something like: “Can I make sure I heard you correctly?” Rest assured
that the answer to this question will always be “yes”. This person wants to be heard! Understand that you are teaching two concepts to the angry person at this point: that you have heard the essence of their statement, and that you have not moved into anger yourself. You have remained sane in the presence of their unbalanced state, and are not becoming their enemy.

There is magic built into what you have just accomplished in justa minute or so of time and a few simple words. You have managed to share with someone who is feeling attacked and vulnerable (and who is barely able to listen to anyone) that not
only are you not angry in response to their anger, but that you have actually understood what they are upset about accurately.

Furthermore, if you asked and were given permission to make a mirroring statement to prove you heard them correctly,
you have already made and kept a successful contract with them, giving you credibility in their mind. You now established a relationship that has value to the person that is angry. Very likely they have aired their grievances with individuals
before you who did not listen well or became angry in return, and who did their best to pass the buck of dealing with the angry person. With just this first step, you are shifting the mental image the angry person holds of you from being the enemy like all
the rest to a becoming an ally in getting their needs met. There is still work to do, but in one move you have done the biggest part of defusing the interaction.

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You’re with your man, may have been together for a while and you’re wondering WHEN he’s going to pop the question?

How do you know if he will ask you to marry him? Stop sleeping with him. Huh?

Yes girl. Stop giving him sex and continue being everything else to him you were before and see how he’ll respond.

Your next question may be, “What do I do, I love sex too?” Sure you do and if you continue to have sex with your boyfriend, he won’t be motivated to give you more.

Think about it for a min. Men are wired for NOW and you’re wired for FOREVER. Women generally enter relationships with the need to have commitment and security. It is innate.

When you get into a relationship with a man and you give him everything a wife would give him, why would he want to commit further? What will motivate him to pursue a deeper commitment?

You’re not denying your sexuality nor using sex as a weapon, you’re thinking about your needs, wants and desires and putting yourself first. Which you should at all times while of course, thinking about his needs.

But if you’ve waited around for a long time hoping that he’ll be convinced that you’re his dream girl, you’re just settling because you don’t think you can find something better.

Be a happy chick, have more fun outside the bedroom, start trying some new and exciting activities together that will build a deeper bond than sex alone and watch to see whether he’ll really step up to the plate.
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We have three at this time and think they are great. Yes, they are bullheaded, but so loving and loyal. They make wonderful companions. Mine are right at my feet at all times when I am home. They will help with the cooking, laundry and making the beds. They really like cuddling with you in bed. They will even sing with you. It doesn’t matter to them as long as they can be with you. They love to go in the car with us. Any where, it does not matter. Even a trip to the vet is exciting to them. Bull terriers are not much for long walks so, if you decide to walk them. Don’t go far, you may have to carry them back. My husband found this out not to long after we got our first Bullie. They only went about an eighth of a mile. When they were about half way back to our house, the dog decided he had had enough and sat down in the middle of the road. That was it, he was done. Here came my husband, down the road, carrying him over his shoulder. Now, we know not to go to far. 50 lbs is a lot of weight to carry, even for a short time.

They love to eat. Anything! Their bite is very strong, so if you value anything keep it up. They will chew it up and if they don’t digest it, it can result in surgery. Bull terriers also require a lot of water so, you will need to keep fresh water available for them at all times. Our Tronco, although he has several dishes of fresh water available to him, prefers to drink out of the toilet. Sounds disgusting but, it also leaves a wet seat. Bull terriers have a nose that curves down so, while drinking out of the toilet he blows bubbles, he can not breath because his nose is in the water and he has to come up for air several times dripping water everywhere. My fault, I left the lid up.

They also love toys, balls being the favorite. Any kind of ball will do. We have to limit the play time with them because they will play with a ball until the top of their nose bleeds. Yes, they use their big nose to push the ball around. They will entertain themselves by pushing the ball with their nose and then chasing it. When we talk about the ball around our Diosa, we have to spell it out backwards (llab) or she gets to excited. We have found the Kong toys or ones of similar strength to be the best because anything less is destroyed in no time.

Bull terriers need consistent discipline. Not physical. Never use physical discipline with a bull terrier. You don’t need to. They are bull headed but, very smart. Crate training works great with ours. They need their own space with their own bed or blanket. To much crate time is not good for any animal but, bed time or when no one is home and you can’t leave them outside is good. Putting them up when you are not home is for their own safety. Some, not all, tend to get into things they should not when left unattended.

Life with our bull terriers is great. We are very happy with our choice of the bull terrier for our dogs. When we talk to other bull terrier owners, we get the same feeling from them. It is always an exciting conversation.
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Bicycle pumps. Lie on the floor flat on your back. We have a curvature of the spine on our lower back that usually elevates it a bit and barely touches the floor. Make sure you press your lower back to the ground. Put your hands above your head. Raise you left bent knee and raise your right elbow to touch it. Without bringing your raised knee and arm down, do the same knee-to-elbow touching on the other pair. Repeat these bicycle pumps twenty times before returning to your original position. This, in conjunction with the other exercises below, will reduce stomach fat.

Full circle torso twist. Stand upright on the floor, feet apart, hands on your waist. When you feel stable enough, raise both hands and clasp them together on top of your head. Face right without moving your legs, from this position you will bend down and sideward to your right, going toward your foot, and twisting till your torso arcs in a circle that passes your left foot and completes the arc with your hands raised and clasped on top of your head again. You can start from the left or right as you so choose. Do five full circle torso twists starting on either side, then switch sides.

Crunches. Basic and effective. Some people forego crunches thinking they are medieval or difficult to do, or both. Don’t be like them. Crunches target the excess fat accumulated in your belly section. Begin by laying on the floor, facing the ceiling. Make sure your knees are bent, and that your feet are flat on the floor. Place your hands at ear level and with your fingertips just behind your eats. Your lower back has a curve that renders it slightly above the ground. Press your whole lower back till it touches the ground. Arc up till your shoulders are above the ground by some inches. Hold that position for five seconds. Release. Return to original position and repeat.

With these targeted workouts, you are sure to reduce stomach fat in no time.

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